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+# Do's and Don'ts for Interacting with Plural Systems
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+This page is for anyone who wants to better understand how to interact respectfully and supportively with plural people -- especially us. Not all systems work the same way, but these guidelines reflect what helps *our* Crew feel safe, seen, and respected.
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+
+### DO:
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+- **Respect each Crew member as a real person.**  
+  If someone introduces themselves, take them at their word. If they tell you their name, pronouns, age, or anything else, honor it just like you would with anyone else.
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+- **Ask gently if you're curious who's fronting.**
+  It's okay to be curious! Just know we might not always want to say, or we might not be sure ourselves. Asking with kindness goes a long way.
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+- **Use the names and pronouns given.**  
+  If Lily introduces herself, she's not "Sky pretending to be Lily." She's Lily; this matters a lot.
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+- **Understand that relationships don't automatically transfer.**  
+  Being close with one of us -- emotionally, romantically, or physically -- doesn't mean you have that same relationship with anyone else. Always ask and check in.
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+- **Be patient with internal communication.**  
+  Sometimes it takes us time to switch, share information, or process things internally. Let us move at our own pace.
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+- **Ask how you can support us.**  
+  Everyone's needs are different. If you're not sure what's helpful, it's okay to ask.
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+### DON'T:
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+- **Don't ask to talk to someone specific.**  
+  It's not like flipping a switch. Sometimes someone isn't available, or it's not safe or appropriate for them to front.
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+- **Don't treat us like a novelty or curiosity.**  
+  We're not here to entertain or be picked apart. Please don't ask intrusive questions just because you're curious.
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+- **Don't assume we all share the same memories or feelings.**  
+  Even if we're co-conscious, our experiences are still individual. One Crew member might not know or feel the same way another does.
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+- **Don't joke about "which one am I talking to?"**  
+  It may seem harmless, but it often feels invalidating or mocking.
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+- **Don't treat us like we're unstable or fragile just because we're plural.**  
+  Being plural doesn't mean we can't function, handle things, or take care of ourselves. If we're asking for help, we'll let you know.