From 7a6410fea6bdde768079b8810eadefcf51de885b Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: Skylar Grant Date: Fri, 6 Jun 2025 12:51:12 +0000 Subject: [PATCH] Add Do's and Don't's --- Do%27s-and-Don%27t%27s.md | 44 +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ 1 file changed, 44 insertions(+) create mode 100644 Do%27s-and-Don%27t%27s.md diff --git a/Do%27s-and-Don%27t%27s.md b/Do%27s-and-Don%27t%27s.md new file mode 100644 index 0000000..f8d9904 --- /dev/null +++ b/Do%27s-and-Don%27t%27s.md @@ -0,0 +1,44 @@ +# Do's and Don'ts for Interacting with Plural Systems + +This page is for anyone who wants to better understand how to interact respectfully and supportively with plural people -- especially us. Not all systems work the same way, but these guidelines reflect what helps *our* Crew feel safe, seen, and respected. + +--- + +### DO: + +- **Respect each Crew member as a real person.** + If someone introduces themselves, take them at their word. If they tell you their name, pronouns, age, or anything else, honor it just like you would with anyone else. + +- **Ask gently if you're curious who's fronting.** + It's okay to be curious! Just know we might not always want to say, or we might not be sure ourselves. Asking with kindness goes a long way. + +- **Use the names and pronouns given.** + If Lily introduces herself, she's not "Sky pretending to be Lily." She's Lily; this matters a lot. + +- **Understand that relationships don't automatically transfer.** + Being close with one of us -- emotionally, romantically, or physically -- doesn't mean you have that same relationship with anyone else. Always ask and check in. + +- **Be patient with internal communication.** + Sometimes it takes us time to switch, share information, or process things internally. Let us move at our own pace. + +- **Ask how you can support us.** + Everyone's needs are different. If you're not sure what's helpful, it's okay to ask. + +--- + +### DON'T: + +- **Don't ask to talk to someone specific.** + It's not like flipping a switch. Sometimes someone isn't available, or it's not safe or appropriate for them to front. + +- **Don't treat us like a novelty or curiosity.** + We're not here to entertain or be picked apart. Please don't ask intrusive questions just because you're curious. + +- **Don't assume we all share the same memories or feelings.** + Even if we're co-conscious, our experiences are still individual. One Crew member might not know or feel the same way another does. + +- **Don't joke about "which one am I talking to?"** + It may seem harmless, but it often feels invalidating or mocking. + +- **Don't treat us like we're unstable or fragile just because we're plural.** + Being plural doesn't mean we can't function, handle things, or take care of ourselves. If we're asking for help, we'll let you know. \ No newline at end of file