diff --git a/Do%27s-and-Don%27t%27s.md b/Guidelines.md similarity index 98% rename from Do%27s-and-Don%27t%27s.md rename to Guidelines.md index f8d9904..e10bc6e 100644 --- a/Do%27s-and-Don%27t%27s.md +++ b/Guidelines.md @@ -1,44 +1,44 @@ -# Do's and Don'ts for Interacting with Plural Systems - -This page is for anyone who wants to better understand how to interact respectfully and supportively with plural people -- especially us. Not all systems work the same way, but these guidelines reflect what helps *our* Crew feel safe, seen, and respected. - ---- - -### DO: - -- **Respect each Crew member as a real person.** - If someone introduces themselves, take them at their word. If they tell you their name, pronouns, age, or anything else, honor it just like you would with anyone else. - -- **Ask gently if you're curious who's fronting.** - It's okay to be curious! Just know we might not always want to say, or we might not be sure ourselves. Asking with kindness goes a long way. - -- **Use the names and pronouns given.** - If Lily introduces herself, she's not "Sky pretending to be Lily." She's Lily; this matters a lot. - -- **Understand that relationships don't automatically transfer.** - Being close with one of us -- emotionally, romantically, or physically -- doesn't mean you have that same relationship with anyone else. Always ask and check in. - -- **Be patient with internal communication.** - Sometimes it takes us time to switch, share information, or process things internally. Let us move at our own pace. - -- **Ask how you can support us.** - Everyone's needs are different. If you're not sure what's helpful, it's okay to ask. - ---- - -### DON'T: - -- **Don't ask to talk to someone specific.** - It's not like flipping a switch. Sometimes someone isn't available, or it's not safe or appropriate for them to front. - -- **Don't treat us like a novelty or curiosity.** - We're not here to entertain or be picked apart. Please don't ask intrusive questions just because you're curious. - -- **Don't assume we all share the same memories or feelings.** - Even if we're co-conscious, our experiences are still individual. One Crew member might not know or feel the same way another does. - -- **Don't joke about "which one am I talking to?"** - It may seem harmless, but it often feels invalidating or mocking. - -- **Don't treat us like we're unstable or fragile just because we're plural.** +# Do's and Don'ts for Interacting with Plural Systems + +This page is for anyone who wants to better understand how to interact respectfully and supportively with plural people -- especially us. Not all systems work the same way, but these guidelines reflect what helps *our* Crew feel safe, seen, and respected. + +--- + +### DO: + +- **Respect each Crew member as a real person.** + If someone introduces themselves, take them at their word. If they tell you their name, pronouns, age, or anything else, honor it just like you would with anyone else. + +- **Ask gently if you're curious who's fronting.** + It's okay to be curious! Just know we might not always want to say, or we might not be sure ourselves. Asking with kindness goes a long way. + +- **Use the names and pronouns given.** + If Lily introduces herself, she's not "Sky pretending to be Lily." She's Lily; this matters a lot. + +- **Understand that relationships don't automatically transfer.** + Being close with one of us -- emotionally, romantically, or physically -- doesn't mean you have that same relationship with anyone else. Always ask and check in. + +- **Be patient with internal communication.** + Sometimes it takes us time to switch, share information, or process things internally. Let us move at our own pace. + +- **Ask how you can support us.** + Everyone's needs are different. If you're not sure what's helpful, it's okay to ask. + +--- + +### DON'T: + +- **Don't ask to talk to someone specific.** + It's not like flipping a switch. Sometimes someone isn't available, or it's not safe or appropriate for them to front. + +- **Don't treat us like a novelty or curiosity.** + We're not here to entertain or be picked apart. Please don't ask intrusive questions just because you're curious. + +- **Don't assume we all share the same memories or feelings.** + Even if we're co-conscious, our experiences are still individual. One Crew member might not know or feel the same way another does. + +- **Don't joke about "which one am I talking to?"** + It may seem harmless, but it often feels invalidating or mocking. + +- **Don't treat us like we're unstable or fragile just because we're plural.** Being plural doesn't mean we can't function, handle things, or take care of ourselves. If we're asking for help, we'll let you know. \ No newline at end of file diff --git a/Home.md b/Home.md index f850338..f39f9a8 100644 --- a/Home.md +++ b/Home.md @@ -4,9 +4,9 @@ Hi there. If you're reading this, you're probably someone we care about and trus This wiki is a semi-public space created by our system -- *Starship Voidfish* -- to help explain who we are, how we work, and what it's like to share a mind and life together. It exists so that people we love can understand us better, and so that we can speak more freely about our internal world without needing to re-explain everything from scratch. -This wiki has a few pages to help explain who we are and how we experience the world. You can start with [Preferred Language](./Language) to understand the terms we use, or check out [More about Dissociation](./Dissociation) if you want a deeper look at how dissociation and plurality work for us. The [System Overview](./System) gives a summary of our Crew as a whole. +This wiki has a few pages to help explain who we are and how we experience the world. You can start with [Preferred Language](./Language) to understand the terms we use, or check out [More about Dissociation](./Dissociation) if you want a deeper look at how dissociation and plurality work for us. There is also a page outlining the [Do's and Don't's](./Guidelines.md) of interacting with a plural system. The [System Overview](./System) gives a summary of our Crew as a whole. -If you're curious to learn more about each of us individually, you can read our bios here: [Skylar](./Skylar.md), [Lily](./Lily.md), [Alex](./Alex.md), and [Abby](./Abby.md). +If you're curious to learn more about each of us individually, you can read our bios here: [Skylar](./Skylar.md), [Lily](./Lily.md), [Alex](./Alex.md), [Abby](./Abby.md), and [Jamie](./Jamie.md). --- @@ -18,6 +18,8 @@ This experience is called *plurality*, and people who experience it may refer to If this idea is new or strange to you, that's okay. It might help to think of it like this: inside one mind, there can be different selves with their own perspectives, memories, and roles. Some are more active than others, some are more talkative, and some come and go quietly. But all of them are real, and all of them are part of the same whole. +![empty](./assets/Terminology.webp) + --- ### What This Wiki Is diff --git a/_Sidebar.md b/_Sidebar.md index 9d81308..cb1461b 100644 --- a/_Sidebar.md +++ b/_Sidebar.md @@ -1,8 +1,9 @@ # Wiki Pages -* [Home/Welcome Aboard](./Home) -* [More about Plurality](./Dissociation) -* [Preferred Language](./Language) -* [System Overview](./System) +* [Home/Welcome Aboard](./Home.md) +* [Do's and Don'ts](./Guidelines.md) +* [More about Plurality](./Dissociation.md) +* [Preferred Language](./Language.md) +* [System Overview](./System.md) # Members * [Skylar](./Skylar.md) diff --git a/assets/Terminology.webp b/assets/Terminology.webp new file mode 100644 index 0000000..3cd9db9 Binary files /dev/null and b/assets/Terminology.webp differ